Internet dating first phone conversation
Rachel has been featured on Today Show, Nightline, CNN, Oprah Magazine, and many more.But it’s a thorny issue - and one that must be tackled, as more and more of us turn to the online dating.What I’m seeing as a matchmaker in this new dating decade of 2010, is that many first dates never happen because the guy or girl had a negative impression of you via phone.Note that I used the word “impression” because it’s not about who you really are: it’s about someone stereotyping you before they get to know you, based on little things you might say, or not say, that usually don’t reflect who you are deep down. After interviewing more than 1,000 single men and women for my new book, “Have Him At Hello,” I have 9 tips to help you shine on the phone: 1. Be fun: If there’s a lull in the conversation flow, try to be fun and spark some banter. Relax him/her: Make the person feel relaxed and confident by acting happy that s/he called and giving positive feedback on their conversation skills (even if his/her phone skills aren’t great-the initially shy or awkward ones usually make better partners in the long run than the instantly slick, charismatic ones! For example, tell someone, “I had a rough day at work, but your call cheered me up! Know when the party’s over: End the conversation quickly when you sense the energy level drooping.
In online dating, first impressions are crucial: usually people focus on having a good photo or writing a clever profile.
No longer do we see tabloid headlines screaming ‘meet the couple who found love ON THE INTERNET!
’ For Britain’s 16 million singles, looking for love online is the norm.
But have you ever thought about what kind of first impression you make by telephone?
Your first phone impression is a tricky mating stage that comes after exchanging emails online, but prior to meeting face-to-face.