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” conversation – always a huge thrill for anyone sitting within three tables of you – and a subsequent exchange of details. If you’re taking selfies together, it’s a social expectation you’ll be tagged, a tacit exchange of following permissions.There’s no acceptable time limit: probably around date five or six, but thirstier types may make it to the second round of pina coladas on your first meeting – being tagged or photographed for someone else’s socials supersedes all other societal norms.Or, you made friends on Instagram, hooked up, but noticed they’re big on Twitter and are dying to @ them.Or maybe, for reasons I’m sure are clear to you, you’re desperate to see what their racist aunt comments under their profile pics, and wish to friend them on Facebook. What will it add to your life to know where the person you had sex with twice – once at theirs, once at yours and, if you’re counting, a kind of halfway affair at a party – goes for eggs Benedict, or what kind of outsized pool inflatable they favour on their holidays?This is exactly what it’s for; it collects things we’d never bring up in real life unprompted, and puts them out into the universe for consideration.That’s why Instagram et al are popular ways to find dates.So you've been on a date with someone you like, maybe a few dates, but you haven't both followed each other on social media over the dinner table. The Guyliner has got your back Social media allows us to tell our life story – not just the gory details, but the dreary ones too.What we ate for lunch, how our feet look when gonzo-videoed from the top end of a sun lounger, our last haircut.
Following sends the message, “I’m interested in you and everything you do for possibly sexual reasons,” while also saying, “It’ll be even harder to ghost each other now, won’t it?Unlike prescriptive apps, which thrive on the quest for coupledom or a quick fix for the horn, social media is the perfect petri dish for cultivating new relationships, because there are zero expectations – you just watch the mould grow and see what happens.Friends, lovers, sworn enemies – all can be made with just one photo or wonkily filmed story.But the rule is this must remain unacknowledged and never admitted.It's not actually about when can you, but at the weekend...” – or more direct: “I had a brilliant time at X; the pics are on my Insta, have a look.” You will now pretend you have never heard of social media, but ask for their username anyway. If you don’t have a conversation like this after, say, a good month or so of chatting over any medium, maybe they’re assessing how many of their old tweets they need to delete, or perhaps they’d prefer you as an “IRL” person, so they can pass off the jokes they see on Twitter as their own.